3 RESULTS AND DISCUSSION
3.1 The Role of the Family in Raising
Education Awareness on the
Children of Suku Dayak Hindu
Budha Bumi Segandhu Indramayu
Community
The family has a main role in a process of children
development, especially in education. The first
environment when a child was born is in the family.
The development of a child is the process in the
family, so does their characteristic form could not be
separated from the family. In a family, a child will be
having their initial and primary education process.
The family’s behavior particular the both parents
continually are imitated by the children. The child
learns various things which they find in the family, it
begins with family’s behavior generally until
individual’s behavior of the member of the family. A
child learns various customs that are applied in the
family as a basic for their social life. That is why the
parents are demanded to be able to embed positive
values in the family through the right education for
the children as a self-reflection and society.
A child is a reflection of the family. Everyone in
the family institution must be going through a change
and development according to the type and form of
the institution (Wahy, 2012). The family environment
is the primary place of getting an education for the
children because, for the first time, the children have
an education and guidance. The experience of a child
in the family in having an education will bring an
impact to the children development in the education
process in the future.
Considering the existence of the community
member spreads out, therefore, the discussion about
education in the community of Suku Dayak Hindu
Budha Bumi Segandhu Indramayu is focused on the
family of Takmad Diningrat who remains as the elder
of this community. Basically, this community has a
majesty concept in the family life. It is a
manifestation of the ngaula ning anak concept in the
family of Suku Dayak Hindu Budha Bumi Segandhu
Indramayu. Ngaula or dedication is delivered by the
husband to his children and rabi or his wife in the
family. As we have explained before that a woman on
this community has the highest status. A woman is
allowed to select her activity whether in a domestic or
public area, and the concept is also valid for the
education of Suku Dayak Hindu Budha Bumi
Segandhu Indramayu community.
A child is free to choose to get the education or
not. The parents are completely allowing their
children to go to school or not. The choice is in the
children’s hands. The parents will be backing the
option that their children pick. As it happens to Nyi
Dewi Ana Mustika Ratu and Sri Panganten Gumilang
Sari as Takmad Diningrat’s daughters.
Nyi Dewi Ana Mustika Ratu and Sri Panganten
Gumilang Sari could not succeed to carry on their
basic education. In addition to they are now married
and having a child, an education is beyond their mind.
Nyi Dewi Ana Mustika Ratu (19 years) is a mother of
a daughter (3 years) and Sri Panganten Gumilang Sari
(17 years) who is her sister also married and have a
daughter (2 years). Both of them could not continue
their school due to young marriage.
This can happen because of one or two things.
First, a freedom that a child has to make their own
decision, second, a belief that Nyi Dewi Ana Mustika
Ratu and Sri Panganten Gumilang Sari are “nature
children” which means that a child was “born” from
nature. This belief convinces them that both of them
are old enough to marry and have no a must to carry
on their education, and third is “dedication” that is
given by the father to their children.
Both of them are willing to marry without other’s
compulsion even their parents. When they decide to
drop out from school and get married, their will is
backed by their parents and the whole family. Sarini
(the late) was Takmad Diningrat’s wife revealed that
she personally wished their children and
grandchildren to get education until the finish. She
added that “her failure” in carrying on her education
could not be repeated by their children and
grandchildren.
Things have changed, getting the education in this
era is not as hard as it was. Even though, her family
was rich but, she exposed that she wished that she
could try to make it happen. But still, she could not
be against with her children when dropping out of
school was the option that her children chose.
The parents are the primary and first education
imitated by the children. The initial shape of
education is in the family life (Daradjat, 1973). The
parents play an important role to teach their children
right or wrong before their children are taught by
others such as in a school or society. The
responsibility of educating in the family from the
parents consists of maintaining and raising,
protecting, and ensuring the health, teaching various
knowledge and skills and also delight the children in
a world and the afterlife. Maintaining and raising are
the basic instinct from the parents. The parent’s
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