Men in the eyes of women at the time of speech,
said that they are more impressed linear, simple, not
comprehensive, do not show emotions, usually in
short sentences, and in the form statement and
hierarchical orientation. In contrast, women in the
eyes of men are usually those at the time of
unstructured speaking, sentence construction usually
in passive form, many use conditional expressions to
show modesty, are more questionable, and tend not
to be focus on the subject. Women are also said to
be good listeners and easier to interact.
Furthermore, through their speech women are
indirectly inclined to show hidden messages or
wishes. For example the use of question tags by
women is not only used to ask questions, but also as
an expression of hope for answers to these questions.
In addition, women also often use high intonation in
declarative sentences to show their emotions or
empathy toward something. Based on the above-
mentioned characteristics, it can be concluded that
men speak more directly to the point and are clear,
while most women usually speak indirectly.
One way to learn the language of women is to
look at the features of female utterances she uses in
communicating and one of her real examples
through interviews. Najwa Shihab (abbreviated as
NS) is one of the female reporters in Indonesia who
is famous for the choice of firm and straightforward
words when conducting interviews with resource
persons.
Najwa Shihab interview is interesting to
investigate because therein there are features of
women's speeches proposed by Lakoff (1975) so it is
known which features are used by Najwa Shihab. In
some of the spoken dialogues, NS uses the features
of speech commonly used by women. In addition to
being known as a straightforward, firm, and spicy
reporter in every speech, NS also still has a feminine
character which is shown by the use of female
speech features when NS responds to answers from
the interviewees it interviews. In the interview can
be seen features female utterances that are used
based on Lakoff's theory of female speech features.
Women’s language indicates the characteristic of
women’s behavior. Because someone’s language
shows their role in the society, women should have
certain speech features to be shown in their society.
Lakoff said that women experience linguistic
discrimination in the way they are taught to use
language, and in the way general language treats
them. Both of them are related with the function or
the role of women in their society. So women have
to choose their best language when they interact
with other people. Women have to talk like a lady, if
they refuses it they are ridiculed and subjected to
criticism as unfeminine (Lakoff, 1973).
According to Holmes (1995), women’s linguistic
behavior can be seen mostly when women used
more standard forms than men. In many speech
communities, when women use more of a linguistic
form than men, it is generally the standard form
which overtly prestigious form that women favor.
Holmes adds that women used more standard form
because of four reasons, they are appeals to social
class and its related status, refers to women’s role in
society, relates to women’s status as a subordinate
group, and relates with
The function of speech expressing masculinity.
Women have role as guardian of social’s values. The
fact that women use more standard forms than men
points to the way society tend to expect better
behavior from women than from men (Holmes,
1995).
Standard forms are commonly associated with
more formal and less personal interactions so the
society expects women to use them because women
are serving as models for children’s speech. Women
are also designated the role of modeling correct
behavior in the community. Women’s language
forms are associated with female values and
femininity. In the other hand, women don’t use
vernacular forms because they don’t want the
society looks their masculinity than their femininity.
Lakoff (1975) suggested based on her intuitions
and observations than women’s speech was
characterized by linguistic features such as the
following: lexical hedges or fillers, tag question,
rising intonation on declaratives, ‘empty’ adjectives,
specialized vocabularies (precise colors terms),
intensifiers, ‘hypercorrect’ grammar, ‘super polite’
form, avoidance of strong words, and emphatic
stress. Lakoff also divided those features into two
groups. First, there are linguistic devices which may
be used for hedging or reducing the force of an
utterance. Hedging devices are lexical hedges, tag
questions, question intonation, super polite forms,
and euphemism. Secondly there are features which
may boost or intensify a proposition’s force. They
are intensifiers and emphatic stress. Lakoff claimed
that hedging devices explicitly signal lack of
confidence, while boosting devices reflect the
speaker’s that the addressee may remain
unconvinced and therefore supply extra reassurance.
So, women use hedging devices to express
uncertainty, and they use boosting devices to
persuade their addressee to take them seriously.