outside the rules of Shari'a (Bou Hdeiba, 2001).
There are at least 27 verses in the Qur’an which
explain about adultery, the prohibition to approach
it, and that adultery is a cruel act of masturbation,
having sex with animals, and corpses, among others
(Ar-Rozi, Syarah in Bou Hdeiba, 2001)
Matured (baligh) condition is the minimum age
limit for marriage in the view of the jurists or fiqh
experts (Asrori, 2015). However, the definition of
baligh in the view of these Jurists varies. In fact,
now the marriage law in various countries regulates
the minimum age for marriage by reason of
reproductive maturity. The reason is that the (aqil-
bâligh) age of puberty period should have been
experienced by everyone in the age range of 14-17
years, where one of the signs commonly used as a
benchmark is the arrival of wet dreams (ihtilam).
Unfortunately the arrival of ihtilam is often not in
line with the maturity of our minds so that not all
teenagers who already have sexual maturity have
maturity in thinking at once (Adhim, 2004).
The majority of Islamic countries stipulate the
average age of marriage allowed for men is 16-21
years. As for women, the minimum age for marriage
is from 15-18 years. This age difference in marriage
is determined because both the Qur'an and the hadith
do not explicitly specify the age of marriage. This
shows that the differences in the application of the
age of marriage in various countries depend on the
discipline of Islamic rules (fiqh) adopted as the
guideline of the relevant country (Asrori, 2015).
Related to freedom in sexual relations, Islam
limits with two conditions: first is menstrual
conditions of a wife, second is penetration by anal
sex or anal intercourse. In the Qur'an surah or
chapter of Al-Baqarah verse 222, Allah SWT says:
And they ask you about menstruation. Say:
"It is harm, so keep away from wives during
menstruation. And do not approach them until they
are pure. And when they have purified themselves,
then come to them from where Allah has ordained
for you. Indeed, Allah loves those who are
constantly repentant and loves those who purify
themselves."
The Prophet Muhammad SAW in this matter
said:
"The one who has intercourse with his wife in
her back passage has disavowed himself of that
which was revealed to Muhammad." (Abu Dawud
Dawud as-Sijistaniy bin al-Asy'as, 2008)
Whereas regarding sexual and reproductive
rights in Islam, sexual education and reproductive
health are on the first rank because of the importance
of education on these subjects from an early age.
Among the methods applied by Islam are teaching
compassion, educating a child to learn rules of
touching and respecting the body, recognizing the
limits of part of body which may not be visible
(aurat), defecating rules and sleeping rules, playing
rules with young children, as well as avoiding
physical contact. When children grow up, they are
taught about dress rules, asking for permission rules,
befriending rules with the opposite sex, and
separating male and female beds (Mansur, 2009). On
behalf of boys who still do not understand about
women, privates, and passions, they are allowed to
be with women. But if they are teenagers or close to
adolescence (nine years and above) then it is not
permissible for them to be with women because they
have been able to distinguish the physical look
(beautiful or not) and they also can react if they see
something interesting (Ibnu Katsir, 1414).
The second right is that Islam stipulates that
sexual relations can only be done in a legal marriage
institution, which is a very strong one (mitsaqon
gholiza). The decree is actually not only for keeping
offspring (nasab) but also for maintaining health for
both parties. After marriage, a husband and a wife,
each of them has the right to fulfill his or her desire
for lust or satisfy his or her sexual needs. That
fulfillment is part of worship and getting closer to
Allah SWT or taqarrub (Rabee, 2011).
Rasulullah SAW said:
God's Messenger(s) said: "In the sexual act of
each of you there is a sadaqa." The Companions
replied: "0 Messenger of God! When one of us
fulfills his sexual desire, will he be given a reward
for that?" And he said, "Do you not think that were
he to act upon it unlawfully, he would be sinning?
Likewise, if he acts upon it lawfully he will be
rewarded." (Narrated by Muslim) ((Rabee, 2011)
Islam considers that sexual relations can
maintain health, perfect pleasure, and happiness of
the soul, as well as obtaining the goal of Shari'a.
Therefore, Islam never limits the discussion of this
issue or even considers it as moral disgrace or
weakness if it is discussed in the context of a
married couple (Abu Abdullah Qoyyim in Rabee,
2011). The explanation of the third and fourth rights
is that Islam understands that the sexual drive of
men and women is naturally and instinctively
different. For this reason, in Islam, husbands are
parties who "demand" their biological distribution to
be fulfilled, while their wives are "giving" parties.
Nature is also recognized that men often have no
power to hold back their desires (Rabee, 2011).
Therefore, it is the duty of the wife to fulfill her
husband's sexual desires when he takes her to bed.