The Values of Family Educational from QS at Tahrim Verse 6
H. Abdul Kosim
1
and Zuhair
1
1
Postgraduate Program, Islamic University of Jakarta,Balai Rakyat Street,Jakarta,Indonesia
Keywords: Educational Family, Quran, Surah Attahrim verse 6
Abstract: The aim of this reaseach is to asses the pedagogical values and examine the lesson of QS At
tahrimv according to the family conseling. This reaseach was qualitative one, using descriptive
analyze phenomena, events social activities, attitude believe, perception though the people, both
individually and in group. The message from QS At Tahrim 6 was, that the child education
begins in the family, parent should have the adequate skill in protecting and educating their
children. There are many kind of educational value, which can taken from QS At Tahrim verse 6.
Educational Value taken from QS At Tahrim verse 6 were: a. The Obedience to Alloh SWT and
His Messenger the family coaching should be to seek the blessing of Alloh Swt and should be
done sincerely b. Togetherness, which meant not only the presence of a person physic and mental
should in the house, but also among the family member which might contribute to all other
family member c . Challenge to internal and external component. d. Petience in obedience
togetherness in facing all the challenges in family coach.
1 INTRODUCTION
Three centers of education is first and
foremost one of them is informal education, the
family, in the family everything was first studied
science. Therefore, Islam has established that
parents are the most important role in saving the
holder of a generation that success in life, both the
life of the world and in the hereafter.
The role of parents towards the child's
education is important, but not all parents know and
understand about their role in the family under his
responsibility, sometimes parents tend to break away
from its role as a primary educator and become a
benchmark for the children in her life. Even more
parents entrust their children to formal education
institutions essentially formal education is only
supervise and educate children while he was in
school, while children spend more time in the family
environment and more interaction with parents. This
suggests that the role of parents is very important in
coaching family.
The above description, it is understood that the
protection of parents to their children and the rest of
his family is very important. Therefore, the guidance
and protection of the child's parents are very
influential for the continuity of education and lives
of children both in the realm of formal, informal and
non-formal. Therefore in this study the authors try to
assess the problems associated with pedagogical
values that can be taken from QS. At-Tahrim
paragraph 6 in the foster family.
2 THEORY
Education is in line with the human endeavors
from birth to dead, Family Educational themselves
consciously by guiding the condition of their soul of
the family, especially in order to create a good
character and habits from the beginning of their
growth and development. Thus, their personality is
formed in accordance with educational family goals
in accordance with the demands of the times will
only make the family stagnant. Therefore, all people
understanding of the view of the nature of changing
education.
The value of educational family from the
above statement is that the parents has to be able to
develop and renew their teaching methods. Thus.
The learning process will run well in accordance
with the need of the family. Moreover, the material
prepared will always be able to be absorbed properly
by parents though the relevant method with current
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The Values of Family Educational from QS at Tahrim Verse 6.
DOI: 10.5220/0009917507940800
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conditional. Education will always innovate and
keep changing and developing as long as human
lives.
PJ Hill said, experts of modern education as
the following:
“Education has most scientist two principle
roles, that of passing on knowledge from one
generation to the next, and that providing people
with skill that enable to analyze, diagnose and thus
question”
3 METHODOLOGY
This study used qualitative method to examine
the natural condition of the objects. Qualitative
research design involved two teachers in interviewed
conducted by the researcher
According to Sugiyono (2010: 15) qualitative
research is a research method based on theories to
examine the condition of natural objects (in contrast
of experiment). Researcher are use as key instrument
.Thus. the result of qualitative research emphasize
meaning rather than generalization.
The data in this study were collected by the
researcher through study of literature (library
research).it was a data collection techniques which
was conducted by looking for the related data to the
concept of the value of educational family from
Surah Attahrim verse 6, and another books, essays,
magazines, and scientific papers
The data obtained in this study were in form of
qualitative data taken from primary and secondary
sources. Primary sources are data that directly
provide data to data collector. Primary source used
in this study is the holy quran surah Attahrim verse
6, with some tafsir of this surah, and the connection
with the surah before or the sura after the surah of
Attahrim. Secondary source are data source that do
not provide information directly to the secondary
data collector. This can be the form of the further
management of primary data presented in order
forms or forma other people (Sugiyono 2004: 225)
4 LITERATURE REVIEW
4.1 The Essence of the Family
Educational
Family is the first environment for children, in
the family environment first gained influence
because the family is the oldest educational
institution, which is informal and natural. The birth
of the family as an educational institution since
humans exist. Father and mother in the family as
educators, and children as the educated.
In essence, a family education should provide
basic knowledge and skills, religion and beliefs,
moral values, social norms and way of life are
required learners to be able to play a role in the
family and in society. (Ahid, 2010: 100)
The position of the husband as head of the
family is not merely an obligation to provide a living
(eating and drinking), but is charged with controlling
the household so that every family member can
enjoy the meaning of family and so each family
member can continuously improve the quality
personal in many ways, both in terms of the
relationship with God, with fellow humans, in terms
of mastery of knowledge and so on.
Allah intestate to the parents of their
responsibilities towards their children earlier than
his testament to children to be kind to their parents,
as Allah says
“ And do not kill your children for fear of poverty.
we who will give sustenance to them and to you.
Verily the killing of them is a great sin”.(Q.SAl-
Israa '17:31).
This passage shows that Allah is very dear to
His servants, more than the love of parents for their
children. It is clear that the responsibility of the
parents to their children earlier than the will of His
children to be kind to parents. Parents are forbidden
to kill her children for fear can not give eat, this
paragraph should be a reference for parents to be
responsible for the lives of her children, because
Allah has guaranteed that ignore even kill them is a
very big sin. Or allow it to not want to maintain it is
a great sin and on par with those who commit This
hadith explains that parents are not responsible for
the death of his son would cause adultery.
In the book-Shahihain as mentioned, and
Abdullah bin Mas'ud I once asked: "O Messenger of
Allah, is the greatest sin?" He replied: That you
make up rivals to Allah when He created you Then
what else? I asked further. He replied: namely, you
killed your son was afraid he would eat with you.
Then what again? I asked. He replied: namely, you
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fornicate with your neighbor's wife. (Ibn Kathir,
2008: 161).
Imam Ibn Qayyim ra quoted Hasan said, "He
who underestimate their children's education by not
providing them with the education that will be
beneficial for her in her old age, he had treated her
son with behavior that is very bad." (Hasan, 2004:
26)
Statement emerged from this reality is from
what has been done by the parents, because they
have distorted the obligation of education of children
with good, eventually the child would grow up with
the environment, not the education of their parents.
As a result, children are more in awe of the
environment than both parents.
Islam imposes responsibility for the education
of children to both parents and all those who will
replace them, it is based on the words of the Prophet:
) (
From Abu Hurayrah said: the Prophet said:
"Nobody is born, unless he was in a state of purity,
then both his parents affect the child was adopted
Judaism and embraced Christianity." (HR. Bukhari
and Muslim) (Muhtadin, 1993: 105)
One of the perfection of the responsibilities of
parents towards their children's education is always
on evaluation of the deficiencies in providing
children's rights, as narrated by Imam Nasa'i and Ibn
Hibban in the book Shahih- ra her with a sanad
which add up to the Prophet, he said:
?
( )
Really Alloh Swt ask every leader what he lead keep
them or ignore them, until God hold accountable a
husband against his family. "(Reported by Al-Nasa'i
and Ibn Hibban) (Hasan, 2004: 29)
This is the responsibility of parents, both father
and mother to his children, degradation experienced
by children today is a result of the mistakes of their
parents and teachers. Therefore be careful not to
hand over a child's education to the maids, to
orphanage, children are taken care of strangers and
missionaries school institutions, because they will
shape our kids suit their concept. Educational
experts child find his research, that the process of
formation of ninety percent of children affected by
the educational environment in which it lived.
(Hasan, 2004: 31)
A poet describes this problem through his verse
as follows; "The development of children and young
people depend on their parents. Forming a person's
temperament was not as easy as what we imagine,
the temperament of a person depends on the people
close to him.
So that the nature of family education is very
important in shaping a child's personality and
decisive for the future of children in accordance with
parental education has given them. These are among
the reasons that Islam gives great attention to the
education of the family, the attention that is well
matched with attention to the individual's life and
the life of mankind as a whole.
The content of Surat At-Tahrim verse 6
O ye who believe, guard yourselves and your
families from a Fire whose fuel is men and stones;
guardian angels of the rough, tough, who do not
disobey Allah in what he commanded them and
always do what they're told. (QS. At Tahrim 66: 6).
At-tahrim consists of 12 paragraphs, derived
after surah Al-Hujurat. This surah surah classified
into Madaniyah. Named At-Tahrim because at the
beginning of this chapter there is a word derived
from the word tuharrim at-Tahrim which means
forbidden.
The above verse describes the family as the
object of education first and foremost in shaping
students' character. The word "Ahi" in the paragraph
above can be interpreted as a small family consisting
of a father, mother and children.
Regarding the word of Allah above Mujahid
said: "And fear Allah and give a message to your
families for fear of God." People -people who
believe in Allah and His Messenger, let some of you
tell others, what can keep you from the fire and keep
you from it, that is obedience to Allah and obey His
commandments. And be ye doing to your family act
by which they can keep themselves from hellfire,
bring them to the thus it through advice and
instruction.
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It is related that when the verse to 6 this fall,
Umar said: "O Messenger of God, we've been
keeping ourselves, and how to keep our family?
"The Prophet Muhammad. replied: "Disallow them
do what you have been forbidden and command
them to do what God commanded you to do so.
That's how he delivers them from the flames of hell.
(Al-Maraghi, 1974: 272)
From this description it appears that the role of
the husband as the leader in the family was very
influential both in terms of education and leadership,
good or bad character of a husband was a reflection
or a lesson for every member of the family, in this
case should a husband have a good personality and
education that qualified to foster family, after the
husband as the head of the family as well as the
backbone of the family of the second person who is
responsible for the safety of his family, namely his
wife.
Wife are prescribed by religion is a good wife
religion so that one day when he had issue can
educate their children to the streets are blessed by
Allah, in addition to the position of a wife as an
educator as well as children's nurse very important
influence on the development of the family,
especially if linked the morals of children and
religious education, where all will be held
accountable by God.
Similarly, proposed by Adh-Dhahhak and
Muqatil ibn Hayyan, in Ibn Kathir they said: "Every
Muslim is obliged to teach his family, including
relatives and slaves, a variety of things with regard
to things that are required Allah to them and what is
forbidden him. "(Kathir, 2008: 229)
In carrying out its obligations parents must
have the patience in the run, because it is not easy
for a parent to educate their children that essentially
they have much contaminated by the outside
environment. This is similar to the word of Allah
SWT:
And give orders to your family establish
regular prayers and be patient in working. (Thaahaa
20: 132)
This verse reinforces the letter At-Tahrim
paragraph 6 that the education given by parents to
their children starting with religious education for
religious education is the beginning of all the
education that can equip a child towards maturity in
accordance with the shari'ah ' at Islam. With this
verse is clear that parents in educating their children
to be patient and should be carried out continuously.
In this case Allah confirms when where parents
do not perform its obligations, namely to educate
their children well and showed him the path blessed
by Allah, then Allah will provide hell Him for those
who disbelieve and do not want to educate their
children beaten path blessed by Allah SWT. Hell
supplied Allah is fueled humans, is human here are
infidels and stones (idols) worshiped by them, which
is guarded by angels to be rude and angel stationed
in hell there are 19 angels where the angels never
deny Allah. (Al-Mahalliy, 1990: 2490)
In the book of Tafsir Al-Munir explained by
Imam Abu Hasan Ali bin Ahmad Wahid that letter
At-Tahrim paragraph 6 contains about the obligation
of parents in educating their children and guide him
to the beaten path blessed by Allah, while he
describes the hell that fueled rock and the man was
interpreted by saying that the stone that fuels the hell
of it is made from human proudly in his life. (Hasan,
2004: 387)
In terms of maintaining and educating children
writer formulate the first step in educating children,
namely by introducing Allah, then introduce the
teachings of the religion of Allah, this was
confirmed by his word in the letter Luqman verse
13, which reads:
“And (remember) when Luqman said to his
son, at the time he gave a lesson to him: my son, do
not associate partners with God, Behold ascribe
(Allah) is truly injustice great." (Luqman 31: 13)
With the introduction of the religion of Allah
SWT is a foundation that can strengthen the
confidence of children to continue their future
without hesitation and are sure to Allah, besides
mem religion and its teachings introduce further
parents continue to prohibit children associating
Allah with anything, because in accordance with the
above paragraph that partners with Allah is a great
injustice. Where in the paragraph above is explained
when Luqman bin 'Anqa' bin Sadun, bequeath to his
son named Tsaran. (Kathir, 2008: 401)
Allah has mentioned with the best of the title
and gave him wisdom. He gave testament to his son
who was the most loved and beloved, and this is the
nature bestows it with a primary one. For that, first
of all he gives testament to worship God Almighty
that there is no partner for Him.
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Tyranny referred to in the paragraph above is
shirk, those who believe in Allah forbidden to
believe in more than Him, whoever has done it
(Shirk) then the person has committed a huge
injustice in his life.
Then the second step after that which is
commanded to worship Him in which it is
symbolized by filial to both parents (moral
education), as Allah SWT says the following
And We have enjoined man in respect of his
parents-- his mother bears him with faintings upon
faintings and his weaning takes two years-- saying:
Be grateful to Me and to both your parents; to Me is
the eventual coming. ( Luqman 14)
That the cultivation of morality into self-
learners are things that need attention. Moreover,
against the parents, especially the mother. In this
verse is described that "his mother had conceived
him in a weakened state that increase steadily, and
weaning in two years". A state that is so heavy
undertaken for women, namely when it contains.
Then, as the faith and moral education are
applied in educating children, then the duty of
parents is to teach about worship next to God, it is
commensurate with the word of Allah the following
“ And I did not create the jinn and mankind except
that they may serve Me”. (Adh-Dzariyat 51: 56)
Worship is the main purpose of the creation of
jinn and humans. Therefore, planting the importance
of worship to do, should start early. Because every
human action committed will be worship when the
act was committed on the basis of science and also a
high sincerity of the offender worship. So as would
gain reward from Allah SWT. Even if it's only
charitable act or a mustard seed, with a record based
on science and a sense of sincerity.
Through the above verse, the family as an
institution or body of the first and foremost fulfilled
by the physical and spiritual needs, the education in
the family should be the educational and teaching
preliminary or preparatory for educators at schools
or community agencies. Therefore, education in the
household must have a purpose, being the goal it is
that children are able to develop optimally. It covers
all aspects of child development, namely the
development of the physical, spiritual and mind.
From here it is clear that the function and
purpose of education is necessary in order to
inculcate the value of knowledge in children, to
achieve happiness and success in establishing and
fostering household’s happy world and the hereafter.
4.2 Links Education Surat at-Tahrim
Verse 6
From the exposure of the contents of the
content of Surah at-Tahrim above we can see that
there are several messages to educate children in
accordance with the Islamic shari'ah, which of
course it has to be implemented by each parent,
between the educational message is as follows:
1. In the foster family every family member
should be aware of the responsibilities of
each, especially for the father who be a
leader in implementing all the family
activities, and therefore to everyone
(women) Which will carry out the wedding
should consider more aspects of religion on
her husband, so that later when undergoing
husband may households lead and educate.
Likewise for the prospective husbands let
choose good bride religion anyway, so that
one day could be a congregation that has
complied with the imam. It is important for
young men and women who are ready to be
married, because the household can be
likened to a mini country inhabited by the
leader and the led.
2. Should any parent well introduce religion
to their children, as in the above verse there
is a threat to every parent that family
members can maintain themselves and
others to not go to hell. Of course,
maintaining each family member from
getting into the hell of a way to teach them
about Islam, monotheism, morality and
worship.
3. Prohibit they do arrogant and become
polytheists because clearly Abi Hasan in
Tafseer al-Munir explained that Hell was
fueled men and stones, where is the man
here is the man who denies Allah, running
away from the teachings of Islam and
associating God with others, those who do
this infidel who will be the fuel of hell
when we as parents could not keep our
families well, in accordance with Islamic
law then we're all going to be fine dining
hellfire blazing. Every family has a
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responsibility to maintain and raise their
children. This responsibility is a natural
urge to be carried out, because children
need food, drink, and care so that he can
live sustainably. Protect and guarantee their
health, both physical and spiritual. Happy
children to the world and the hereafter by
giving religious and social education in
accordance with the provisions of God as
the ultimate goal of Muslim life. Both of
which would be beneficial to a child's life
in this world and in the hereafter
5 FINDINGS AND DISCUSSION
In the descriptive analysis, it will be known the
pedagogical value in a family foster that obtained
from QS Attahrim verse 6. The following will be
presented the value of educational family
5.1 Obedience Value
Worshiping with the Lillahita'ala (sincere)
always obedient, is one way to get closer and greatly
liked by Allah and His Messenger. Obedient as
language is always submissive and obedient, kind to
Allah, the Messenger and the government.
’Obedience to Allah is an obligation that can not be
tampered “. (Ibrahim, 2007: 194).
When someone has to say two sentences creed
or have been in the shade of Islam, then it is
obligatory for him to be obedient to all forms of
commands and prohibitions of Allah. Allah calls His
servants who believe with the exclamation "O ye
who believe" as a breeding for them because they
were ready to accept the commands of Allah and
avoid His prohibitions. By call their faith became
increasingly ready to welcome each invocation of
Allah.
5.2 Mutual Value
Fostering family is a sure thing done by at
least two people who have a family, the husband and
wife. Of course, before having a family, a person
must go through a phase of first marriage for the
family was formed.
Togetherness in the family is an important
issue and should be productive also developed.
(Kanisuis, 2007: 48). Given this togetherness when
maintained properly by all family members can
motivate a more harmonious family life and control.
Togetherness is meant here is not only the presence
of a physical and soul in the house, but the presence
of a physical contributing with all other family
members, joking and exchanging ideas between
husband and wife. A togetherness among the family
members also can generate positive communication
in the home, make all the activity in pleasure-
oriented family life and inner satisfaction of each
member of the family, giving each other the
motivation and input on the issues of employment
and so forth.
Togetherness built by married couples should
be based on the needs that exist in the family, do not
exist and not too far-fetched. A husband or wife
should understand the busyness of each, as well as if
it had been present to a child as the fruit of love
adorn household, it would be wonderful if the
togetherness fostered the spirit of positive and
productive, which can build up household blessings
and always blessed Allah SWT.
5.3 Value Challenge
Having formed a family and through courtship
(ta'aruf) then each member is not likely to have a
different character in addressing a problem in the
household. In essence, a character from each
member of the family.
There are distinct and deeply rooted in him,
but need to be known by each member, if the family
had been aware of obedience and unity in family
foster it must have understood well how to
overcome the challenges in building a family
blessing.
5.4 Value Patience
Fostering a family is not as easy as turning
the palm of the hand, the union of two different
characters which is a challenge to raise a family,
then here also must be balanced with patience, not to
mention when blessed with a child, like a white
paper that can be written by writing any, The role of
parents in this regard is vital in addition to educating
well to be patient in educating him, because through
the parents, the child will be a good man or not.
Prophet Muhammad, as an example of the plenary,
has provided guidance how to educate and prepare
children. And the most important thing is exemplary
in doing the main thing. This is what must be a
parent.
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6 CONCLUSIONS
Based on the research and analysis of values
Pedagogical in Fostering Families contained in the
QS. At-Tahrim verse 6, it can be concluded that:
1. The first educational value that can be taken
from Q.S At-Tahrim verse 6 is that it should be
realized by every family that a child's education
begins and begins in a family environment.
Related to this, the parent must have sufficient
skillsin protecting and educating their children.
2. Develop a family at least there should be four
values that should be adherence value in
fostering the family could mean that families are
required to be always obedient to Allah and His
Messenger, to start a family with blessings God
and sincerely seek to live. So even if there are
problems in the family that can not be solved
then returned to Allah and His Messenger.
3. Togetherness value referred to here is not only
the presence of a physical and soul in the house,
but the presence of a physical contributing with
all other family members, joking and exchanging
ideas between husband and wife. A togetherness
among the family members also can generate
positive communication in the home, make all
the activity in pleasure-oriented family life and
inner satisfaction of each member of the family,
giving each other the motivation and input on the
issues of employment and so forth.
4. Value challenge is in raising a family there are
two components, namely internal and external
components. The internal components include
the maturity of the couple, intellectually,
psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and
morally. While external components consist of a
nearby neighborhood or community. Patience
value is a fixed value of patience in obedience,
togetherness and face all the challenges in
building a family with a patient, undergoing
patiently and sincerely. Educate children and
take care of all the components associated with
the peace of the family.
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