workshop. This book is expected to be one of the
references on the issues of male and female relations,
justice relations for men and women. The relation is
named mubadalah, reciprocal.
The conception of mubadalah is taken from
Arabic which means exchange, both physical and
non-physical. I t can also be interpreted as reciprocal
or distraction. The meaning of the mubadalah is
intended to be an understanding and movement
towards resistance to the values and behaviors that are
hegemonic, tyrannical, discrimination, dlalim etc.
The mubadalah movement is essentially to change
norms and perspectives on male and female relations
on values of ignorance, friendship, cooperation for a
better life justice and peace and history. Everything is
aimed at happiness in the world. Islam is a blessing
for men and women.
In term of terminology, it can be defined as “the
Islamic principle of confusion between men and
women in carrying out their gender roles in the
domestic and public spheres, based on the quality
between them, justice and benefit for both, so that one
does not hegemonize the other and or become victims
of injustice from others. But relationship that support
each other, work together, and help one another.
In Practical techniques, mubadalah is
(reciprocal) intended as a perspective in everyday
actions. Smiles, friendliness, service and all good
deeds can be done by the wife to her husband, and
vice versa. Likewise, bad deeds, unpleasant; cursing,
hitting and so on are bad deeds are also not
permissible and must be avoided by husband and
wife.
What about public life, mubadalah is a view that
both men and women are equal. Both have speed,
rights and obligations. This right and obligation can
be a potential to complement each other, strengthen
and build social life. At the same time when men and
women can manage public life, men can also
contribute to the domestic realm which is assumed to
be only a women’s obligation.
One example of reciprocity (mubadalah) is an
example of the concept of aurat and lust. In the
MubaadalahNews.com column. As soon as the media
was busy with news of the Asian Games athlete’s (his
name is Jojo) victory celebration that opened their
clothes after the match. Women hysteria ensued.
Why? Apparently his athletic and six pack body has
fascinated women. Social media also talks about the
way this athletes is grateful for his victory. An author
poured his observations in a mubadlah news with a
perspective of the distraction or mubadalah itself.
He saw that what had been alleged against women
that their body shape was a source of slander for men
so that they might fall into bad deeds bfallen men as
the subject of attention. Of course, in this case the
athlete’s body is stunning and arouses women’s
passion. Sarah Hajar writes this phenomenon and is
academically reviewed in refence to mubadalah.com,
one of the hadith quoted is the authentic hadith of the
prophet, for example, states: “ Ma taraktu ba’di fitnah
adharra ala al-rijal min al-nisa” ( I do not pass on on
a slander that is more detrimental (harmful) to men
except women). The word “fitnah” in Arabic, not in
Indonesian terminology, literally and generically
means trials and test. The shape can vary, with levels
that are also varied, light. Heavy ti endanger life. As
a trial or test, slander can effect anyone; believers and
non-believers.
There are many stories where women are sexually
attracted to men. In the Quran there are many sotory
about Zulaikha , the wife of a high ranking official of
the Egyptian kingdom at that time. She was tempted
by her heart to Yusuf, who later became the prophet.
This man with beautiful posture and a handsome wife
face, was so disturbing an tickling Zulaikha’s libido,
who was said to later become his wife. It was also told
that this woman’s ‘s passion was to have fun with
Yusuf, the son of the Prophet Yaqub, As, as if
unberarable. The Quran informs this situation; “ And
the woman (Zualikha) whom Yusuf lived in his house
tempted Yusuf to bow himself ( to him) and he closed
the doors, sayin;” Come here. “Yusuf said” I take
refuge in Allah, indeed my lord has treated me with
good with good” (QS. Yusuf, 12:23) ‘Yusuf said” He
tempted me to subdue myself (to him), ( Q.S. Yusuf
12:26) “and the women in the city said”; Al Aziz’s
wife tempted her servant to subdue her (to him),
actually his love for his bachelor is very deep “. ( Q.S,
Yusuf, 12:30).
4 MUBADALAH IN QURAN AND
HADITH
If we have seen the practice of mubadalah
practice in daily practice. Are there any sources of
mubadalah. In the Quran and Hadith?, many. The
souces of the texts, for example, in the letter At-
Taubah “those who believe, men and women, are
helping one another, one to another; in sending
goodness, forbidding evil, establishing prayer,
issuing zakat and obeying Allah and his apostles.
They will be blessed by God. Verily Allah is strong
and wise. (QS. Al-Taubah, 9;71)
There are many other verses, such as (al-
Baqarah, 2: 197:232:233, Ali Imran’ 3:195, and al-
Nisa 4:19) which specially affirm the perspective of