3.7.2 Family Support Award for the Elderly
From the results of research done to the elderly who
live in the Panti Medan City, the awards given by
the family to the elderly are good, as indicated by
the percentage of 70% of 30 elderly people who say
they get good appreciation from their own families.
Elderly said that the award they received, as usual,
was the praise given by the family to him. Being
allowed to live in a nursing home is a great
appreciation that has been felt by the family because
most of the elderly who become respondents have
their own desire to live in a home. The Hafshjan et
all (2016) study, about "A Study of Families'
Experiences of Putting Their Elders in Nursing
Homes" said that some elderly parents had their own
desire to live in nursing homes. One cause of this is
loneliness felt by the elderly because they do not
have a life partner, health status that begins to
decline and the economic limitations of the elderly.
While living in a nursing home, the elderly also said
that he was still valued by family members.
Whatever happens with family members, the elderly
remain informed. This effort is carried out by the
family to maintain and respect the feelings of their
elderly parents. Elderly also said that none of the
visiting family members did listen to the story and
complained during their stay at the institution. It is
not uncommon for the elderly to get compliments
and even gifts from every positive thing they have
done while in the institution. The majority of the
elderly have never felt that they were not valued by
their own family members. In line with the research
conducted by Friedman (1999), in his research "The
Adult Leaner Family in Home" said that providing
support in the form of appreciation to elderly parents
can help the elderly explore the positive values that
exist within themselves, increase ability and
confidence in the elderly and make the elderly feel
valued and useful when experiencing pressure.
Although the majority of the elderly feel happy
with the award given by their family, there are 6.7%
of the elderly who say that they feel enough with the
appreciation received from the family. In addition,
some elderly people who felt they were not getting
awards from their own families, namely 23.3%.
Elderly people feel that they are no longer expected
by the family because they are no longer productive
so the family can entrust the elderly to the Nursing
Home. Elderly also said that they were rarely
visited, the family only contacted the nursing home
staff by telephone if necessary. Ahmad (2012), in his
research on "Overview of Family Support in
Fulfilling Elderly Daily Activities in Tongko
Village, Baroko District, Enrekang District" also
said that 31.4% of respondents did not get good
appreciation from their families. Elderly said that
they did not get good motivation, the elderly also
could not channel their hobbies because the family
assumed that the elderly were no longer able to carry
out physical activities and would pursue the
condition of the elderly.
3.7.3 Emotional Family Support for the
Elderly
Emotional family support felt by the elderly who
live in nursing homes is mostly in the good category.
This is evidenced by the results of the research that
has been done which is as much as 60%. Emotional
support felt by the elderly must be maintained and
must be further enhanced for the welfare of the
elderly themselves. Elderly said there was no
difference felt during his stay in the home. Families
still pay attention to the elderly. Elderly also said
that the most frequently done by family members
every time they visit is the care that is still given to
them when they are sick. The family will come to
the home and bring the elderly home to be cared for
at home lovingly and if necessary will be taken to
the hospital for medical treatment. Elderly people
were also touched when they were visited by their
families, always invited the elderly to go home and
stay at home together. This was felt by the elderly
because of their own desire to live in a home. It is
different from the research conducted by Siddique
(2014), about "Elderly Regarding Behaviour by His
Family Members" who said that the majority of
elderly parents said they were not happy and were
not satisfied with the attitude of family members
who took care of it. Elderly people say loneliness
even among other family members, loneliness and
health problems also occur because of pressure from
their family. The percentage results from this study
also say that nearly 100% of elderly parents want the
support and decent life of their own family
members.
Even so, the results of the study also showed that
20% of the elderly felt enough with family support
related emotionally to him. 20% of other elderly
people also feel a lack of emotional support given by
the family to him. This makes the elderly feel
ignored by their own family members so that the
elderly do not feel excited in living life. Not a few of
the elderly also say that they want to quickly face
the Almighty. Research conducted by Kaur et all
(2015) on "Factors Determining Family Support and
Quality of Life of Elderly Population" said that