The Formation of the Students Attitude Post following the Family

Communication Training

Hanny Hafiar, Yanti Setianti, Priyo Subekti, and Heru Ryanto Budiana

Faculty of Communication Sciences, Padjadjaran University

Keywords: Family Communication, Parents, Children, Attitude, Harmony.

Abstract: Along with the social changes that occur in the community, making the communication patterns within the

family between parents and children is now undergoing changes. These changes include alterations of the

quantity and quality of communication that tends to decline. Therefore this paper intends to find out and

expose the formation of the attitude of students after they join the family communication training, either

from elements of perception, feelings, nor the will to do something. The method used is descriptive

quantitative with the technique of sampling survey to all the participants in a class of senior high school in

Bandung. As for the results obtained, the majority of students after following family communication

training experienced considerable attitude formation on aspects of cognition, affection, and also conation.

Thus the training of family communication is needed to reinvigorate the substantive values should be

embodied in the relationship between children with parents in order to create a harmonious communication

between them.

1 INTRODUCTION

The child is a gift for every parent, however, this gift

sometimes feels difficult in the event of unwanted

conflict occurs between parents and children. The

conflict between parents and children mostly

resulted from poor communication within families,

both of the quantity or quality of communications.

Many factors lead to the deterioration of the family

communication, one contributing factor is the

busyness of the parents in search of a living for the

sake of sufficient family needs.

It is implied in the interview below:

“Rarely .... very rarely I can have long chats

with my mama and papa at home, because

both of my parents are very busy with their

work, ma'am.......especially, with my mama,

mama much busier compared with papa,

because at her office, mama is an official,

so mama often assigned to out of town or

even outside the country. when mama was

assigned outside the office, she is often

away for long periods of time, so I'm used

to the absence of a mom at home. This

condition has been going on since I was a

kid, so that's not a problem for me

anymore..... If something happens then I

have to take care of it by myself, except

when there is a very important had

happened only then I contacted my parents”

Based on the results of those interviews noted

that one factor in the decline in the intensity of

communication between children and their mother

was caused by the existence of the busyness in the

work performed by the mother. In principle based on

the statement above, the child simply understands

the preoccupations of his parents, but over time,

gradually the intensity of communication within the

family will be reduced.

There are other factors apart from the busyness

of the parents, it turns out that there are factors that

are derived from the child itself, it is reflected in the

following interview excerpt:

“When I was a kid, I used to do it, I did it

until junior high, often chatting, often

asking, in case something happened, I often

talk with my parents ... but sometimes after

I told my problem then they even ranting at

me, blamed me.... so the problem gets

worse and they also do not give any

solution, sometimes what they say is not

related to my story, so that in case

Haﬁar, H., Setianti, Y., Subekti, P. and Budiana, H.

The Formation of the Students Attitude Post Following the Family Communication Training.

DOI: 10.5220/0009021300002297

In Proceedings of the Borneo International Conference on Education and Social Sciences (BICESS 2018), pages 377-381

ISBN: 978-989-758-470-1

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something happened I prefer to tell the

stories only to my friends, or does not tell

the story at all, I tried to divert the problems

with playing or doing other activities at the

school, more palatable, no dizziness”

Referring to the statement, it can be known, that

the children tend to take discuss with friends that

became a peer group, or by diverting attention to

activities that are considered capable of changing

moods from the restless became more fun, one of

them looking for things or activities that are

recreational.

There are a few things that cause communication

between parents and children take place in a way

that is not appropriate. The warm and intimate

discussion could have been turned into a conflict

that is accompanied by a loud noise and emotion that

arises. If this continues, the communication patterns

between both parents and children, often have a

reluctance to open up communication in the form of

a quality discussion. If there is any conversation,

tend to run as conversational pleasantries.

This certainly needs special attention,

considering that the communication between parents

and children, especially adolescents, is an important

communication in the formation of character and

values that should be held by the child as a guideline

for them in taking their lives until them adulthood.

This is in accordance with the results of researchs,

such as(Hafiar & Sani, 2015), Family has a very

important role in determining one's character. School

alone is not enough to shape a person's character,

inevitably we should turn to the family. The family

contributes to the formation of values so that the

child can discover his identity (Budi & Sidemen,

2013), the norms and rules instilled in the family

will melt within the child so that his behavior

outside is a mirror of his behavior in the family,

though (Lutfiyah, 2016), which in essence states that

communication within the family affects the

character and attitude of adolescents.

Communication between parents and children

become cooled off triggered byincomprehension

between the two sides. So, should the family

instinctively feel the feelings and atmosphere of

children and other members in communicating and

interacting among fellow family members (Subhan,

2013). Parents tend to have difficulty to understand

the desire and their child's behaviour which is

considered out of placewhile the children also tend

to have difficulty in capturing the intent and purpose

of their parents, which is conveyed in the activity of

family communication. Disadvantages of this

understanding will drift into a conflict that is

tapered. Therefore, it is necessary to do an activity to

remind children about the largeness of hope and

affection of the parents to their children, in the form

of training of family communication.

Accordingly, this paper is presented in order to

explain the results of a family communication

training activity in an effort to form a positive

attitude of the child of the importance of family

communication that includes factors in cognition,

affection, or conation. The results of this research

are expected to give an overview regarding the

attitude that ultimately owned by children after

following the material about the importance and

severity of duty as a parent.

2 METHODOLOGY

This research uses the descriptive method that is

used to describe the attitude of the participants after

the training of family communication, the instrument

used in the form of questionnaires and interviews,

and also observation. Each answer is calculated

based on the frequency and further specified into

single tabulation were subsequently used as

withdrawal material to produce the conclusion.

3 RESULTS AND DISCUSSION

Based on the results of questionnaires were obtained

after the family communication training activities,

obtained the answers of the participants regarding

aspects of knowledge as follows:

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Figure 1: Awareness of the Heavy Burden of Parenthood

Referring to the diagram above, it can be noted

that most of the participants became more knowing

that the burden and the responsibility shouldered by

their parents is very heavy. It is a positive thing

given the role as parents for the individual; it is the

conditions and responsibilities that always presents a

variety of new situations and conditions at any time,

thus demanding a continuous adjustment (Mappiare,

Afterthetraining,Ibecomemore

awareoftheheavyburdenof

parenthood

yes

hesitate

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1983:161). It is therefore necessary that this

condition be communicated to the child, so that

children understand that being a parent is also a

learning process. In communication activities can

also be instilled values that educate, because parents

as educators in the family have a big role in

educating their children (Antasari, 2016). Therefore

it is required to communicate it to the children, so

that children understand that being a parent is also a

learning process.As for the indicator of the trust, the

results are as follows:

Figure 2: The Trust of Good Purpose of Parents Disallow

When looking at the results from the

questionnaire, it is known that almost all the

participants believe that the prohibition conveyed by

their parents with regard to a particular case, is a

prohibition committed to the good of the children

themselves. Establishment of trust is also

strengthened by the interview excerpts as follows:

“it is true ... I also sometimes know what

that means, if my parents' forbid it certainly

they meant well, but maybe sometimes I

was stubborn hehe ... so I often do not

comply with my parents prohibition, but

sometimes I was also annoyed with my

father and mother commented 'told you so

...!' so irritated ma'am”

In addition to knowledge and trust, the

participants also showed their understanding of the

formation, as illustrated in the diagram below:

Figure 3: Better Understanding about the Reason Behind

Parents Decision

The majority of participants stated that they are

now more able to understand that every decision

made by their parents is the best decision and have

gone through the process of consideration.

Nevertheless, it would be better if in a family, the

decision was taken as a consensus, this refers to the

statement that: “in consensus decision making,

discussion continues until agreement is reached.

This may involve compromise and flexibility but the

desired goal is a solution acceptable to all involved”

(Galvin &Brommel, 1982: 158). The background of

a decision-making process, is something that can not

be separated from the value(Mulyana, Zein, &

Setiawan, 2017). Therefore it is necessary to give

praise and advice to the child proportionately

3.1 Affection

On the activities of family communication, not

infrequently appear role as an indicator of emotional

affection from the parties involved. Based on the

results of questionnaires obtained the formation of a

sense of joy that can be described as follows:

Figure 4: More Loving the Parents

Based on the diagram, it can be said that the love

of the children to their families become increased.

Therefore, parents and children are supposed to

mutually closeness and sharing in order to create a

sense of affection between them, as expressed by

Sternberg in the theory of love, namely: the

closeness and mutual sharing are indicative of their

love categorized in intimacy (Sternberg &Grajek,

1984).

In addition to the growing sense of love for the

parent grow in size, comes a feeling of regret that

comes from the awareness that there is a

participants' behavior as a child who is not in the

proper towards their parents, as described in the

following diagram:

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parentsdisallow,thepurposeisforthe

goodoftheirchildren

yes

hesitate

Afterthetraining,Iunderstandbetter

thereasonsbehindtheparents

decisionineducatingtheirchildren

yes

hesitate

Afterthetraining,Ifindittobemore

lovingmyparents

yes

hesitate

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Figure 5: Regret Feeling After Disobey the Parents

Regrets that appears within the child when

considering the actions they had done when

disobeying their parents indicated that they love

their parents because in principle they realize that

the act of noncompliance that makes parents upset or

inconvenient. This is in line with that expressed in

the following statement :“if you love someone, you

care about them, and therefore you want to do

things for them, make them happy, help them, give to

them, share with them, fulfil their needs, and if

necessary, sacrifice for the,” (Strauss & Quinn,

1997: 200).

3.2 Conation

The closeness or intimacy can be awakened in a

communication. The effect of wanting to get closer

is also a tendency to act as part of the conation

factor. As one conation element which appears in the

participant is to want more frequent communication

can be seen in the following diagram:

Figure 6: Willing to Communication more often

The desire to communicate more frequently with

their parentsarising within the children.This

indicating the formation of attitudes that want to be

closer to his parents. Communication to be woven

should be interactive. These are interactive

communication according to Porter and Samovar

(1982) requires a reciprocal situation. Situations are

things that also affect the development of children.

Situations can be internal and external factors.

External factors are social factors or factors that

come from outside the individual self such as family

environment and community environment (Falentini,

Taufik, & Mudjiran, 2013). Therefore, the family

must play an active role in the change and

development of children (Nurrohmatulloh, 2016),

including changes that are influenced by the

situation factors.

While other conation elements arising is

determined to be filial to their parents, which

become determination by the whole participants,

with the following diagram:

Figure 7: Determining to be more Filial to The Parents

The emergence of a determination to become a

more dedicated child is a positive result.

Considering one of the goals of the training

activities was cause a motivation within the

participants to do things according to the purpose of

the training. As for the purpose of this training one

of them is to make the student participants into

children more dutiful to their parents, as expressed

by the head of the training as follows: "one of the

goals of this family communication training for high

school students is so that they can become a child

that more filial to their parents”. One of the devotion

of a child is to study earnestly according to the

expectation of parents, therefore it is the duty of

parents also to keep the child to always be in a

conducive social environment. Because, the better

the social environment will result in higher

motivation to learn (Yuliani, 2013).

4 CONCLUSIONS

Family communications training conducted by the

team members of community service for high school

students can say to be quite successful. This is

evidenced by the positive response from the students

who participated in the training which indicates the

formation of positive attitudes of participants

towards family communication. One of the results

Afterthetraining,Ifeltregretever

disobeymyparents

yes

hesitate

Afterthetraining,Iwantto

communicatemoreoften

yes

hesitate

Afterthetraining,Iwasdeterminedto

bemorefilialtomyparents

yes

hesitate

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found is the growth of the trust, and love of their

parents, as well as the determination of the children

to be a filial child to their parents.

Therefore, this kind of training should be

conducted on an ongoing basis to youth, considering

in the teenage years, they often have conflicts with

their parents indicated by the presence of family

communication deteriorating likely to appear.

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