In conducting the FGD the participants were
divided into five (5) groups so that they could
exchange ideas about what problems they faced when
serving the elderly and what efforts were being made
to solve all the problems of the elderly.
Problems Faced with the Elderly: Irritable, Easy
sulk, Easily angry, Like a child, His words must be
followed, Selfish, Sensitive, likes to talk weird, when
his speak you have to listen, Easy to fall, Likes to ask
for help, ask for more attention, Want to be
understood, Forgetfulness, Wants to be taken for a
walk, The food must be soggy, His needs must be
considered, Always ask for religious guidance, Must
Always want to be with family, Clothes must always
be clean, Always want to be prioritized,and His
health is easy to decline.
The solution provided: Be patient, Respect,
Empathy, Understand, Frequent visits/family
gathering, Paying attention to his health, Prioritizing
their needs, Be gentle, Leading to better, Often gather
at majlis taklim, Taking her for a walk/entertaining
her, Listening to his complaints, Not denying the talk,
Paying attention to meal times, Paying attention to his
break time, Must bask in the sun, Encourage light
exercise, Deliver messages that are easy to
understand, and Routine Health Control.
4.3 Interview Results
The interview was conducted on 87-year-old Mery's
mother. Mery's mother was very happy to be spoken
to. His speaking ability is very smooth, but the decline
in memory makes his memory ability in long-term
memory.Where he is only able to remember past
events that impressed him throughout his life and
forget about newly given information such as the
name of the researcher, the purpose of the researcher
came and other things that at the beginning of the
meeting have been conveyed but will be asked
repeatedly. Mrs. Mery is very proud to tell me that
she used to fight with her parents, crossing the border
that was heavily guarded by the Dutch army. Walked
for miles to avoid the Dutch army. He was very
enthusiastic about telling it and even repeated it many
times. It can be for hours he tells stories without
fatigue and looks very excited and happy
accompanied by telling stories with researchers. As if
he forgot the time, forgot to eat and drink even though
it had been offered by researchers.
Likewise with the next informant Mrs. Nani, age
80 years. He used to be a lecturer. Mrs. Nani is also
very enthusiastic about telling how she never aspired
to be a lecturer because she was originally a teacher.
The teacher who his students said was cruel. But fate
ushered in becoming a lecturer even to get the title of
exemplary lecturer. He was very proud of it because
he himself realized that he was not a good lecturer.
Even the campus once sent him abroad to attend
education there. Mrs. Nani also repeated this story
many times and seemed enthusiastic about telling it.
Every now and then he laughs proudly at the
achievements he has achieved. Because from the
morning Mrs. Nani had not eaten so the researcher
tried to offer her a meal, but she refused. The reason
if you eat can be at any time but the opportunity to
chat like this is not necessarily he gets again.
Researchers were very touched to hear mrs. Nani's
reason because she was so lonely that she didn't want
to miss her time when someone would listen to her
tell a story.
From these two informants, it can be known that
the basic needs of these elderly people are friends to
tell stories. A friend who would accompany him as he
reminisced about his past because that was all he
remembered. But it takes a lot of time to be able to
accompany this elderly, while each family member
also has their own busyness and sometimes also bored
if you continue to hear the story that's all.
But that is the reality that must be faced when we
have the elderly at home. It takes awareness and
patience because the needs of the elderly are different
from others. Their need to speak and be listened to is
becoming dominant today. This makes the elderly
feel more comfortable, and happy because the family
is there for him. A simple but difficult wish for family
members to fulfill. This is also what makes the elderly
feel ignored so that they are often depressed, easily
sick and not excited.
From the results of research that has been carried
out, many new things have been found, such as the
problems of the elderly that have not been thought of
until now, appear as a form of building awareness for
elderly companions. In addition, each participant can
measure his ability so far in serving the elderly.
Knowledge and skills also increase due to exchanging
experiences during FGDs.
The high level of knowledge does not guarantee
the welfare of the elderly at home. The limited time
that family members have because of their respective
occupations makes them forget that there are workers
who care about them, namely the elderly, whether it's
their parents, grandparents or uncles who live in the
same house.
For this reason, one of the family members who
acts as a caregiver is needed, namely the person who
accompanies and cares for the elderly at home.
Usually in a family there is one person who cares the
most about the condition of the family and this person