A Critical Analysis of the Enduring Nature of Family Relationships in

Civil Society

R. E. Kholikova

, M. R. Dekhkanov

, M. N. Inatov

and M. M. Rokhataliyev

Tashkent State Technical University, Tashkent, Uzbekistan

Keywords: Affection, Love, Citizen, Generation, Right, Blessing, Maturity, Heir, Kindness, Patience, Tolerance,

Modesty.

Abstract: The topic of this article is one of the most pressing issues of revival and renewal in the era of globalization.

Because it is explained that during the period of building any democratic and civil society, morals, mutual

attitude of parents and love for children are important factors in the stability of the family.

1 INTRODUCTION

In the ongoing process of building a legal,

democratic, and civil society in our country,

especially during the period of revival and renewal,

the stability of family relations, morals, manners, and

the mutual attitude of parents, along with love for

their children, holds great importance. The

responsibility of building a legal, democratic, and

civil society in Uzbekistan, where the current renewal

is unfolding, lies in the hands of the future youth and

righteous children. The younger generation receives

primary education and matures within the family.

As stated, "Every sane person understands that as

long as there is life in this bright world, there is a

family. As long as there is a family, there is a priceless

blessing called a child. As long as there is a child,

people always live with good dreams and aspirations"

(

Karimov I. A, 2008

). Therefore, children are a

blessing, and parents bear a high responsibility in

their upbringing. Simultaneously, it is crucial that

children bring joy to their parents. "Whoever pleases

his parents will be blessed with Tubo (a tree in

Paradise), and Allah will prolong his life" (

Muhammad

ibn Ismoil Al-Bukhari, Al-adab Al-mufrad, 2008

In the family, the mother is considered a blessing,

being the beginning of life and the main creator of the

child's spirituality. Raising children is the most

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responsible task for parents, and the child represents

the heir of today and the future of independent

Uzbekistan. Mothers endure any difficulties for their

children, overcoming them with patience. The

challenge of raising a mature individual from a

vulnerable stage is formidable, and mothers tirelessly

dedicate themselves to this task day and night,

sometimes forgetting about their own needs. Showing

kindness to their children, women, first and foremost,

fulfill the sacred duty of pleasing their mothers.

The decrees and laws adopted in our republic

underscore the importance of women and their

appreciation, reflecting the significant work

accomplished in this regard. When discussing

women, it is essential to recognize that a woman is a

teacher ensuring the eternity of life, the continuity of

generations, preserving sacred traditions, and

influencing future generations to become human

beings. The esteemed poet Alisher Navoi, in his work

"Hayrat-ul-Abror," emphasizes the vital roles of both

father and mother, likening them to the moon and the

sun. In "Arbain," he stresses the high value of

mothers, stating, “The Garden of paradise is under the

feet of mothers, if you wish, be the soil at the mother's

feet” (

Alisher Navoi, Nazmul-Javohir, Arbain, 1968

An ideal life for a woman, according to Navoi,

encompasses great moral qualities and avoidance of

sensual vices. A woman's modesty becomes the

ornament of human life. Modesty, faith, and a

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beautiful character make a woman the spiritual

symbol of the family. Chastity is in faith, and faith

leads to heaven. Chastity is a pure flower adorning the

wisdom that manifests in a woman's heart, feelings,

and appearance, enhancing her chastity and

femininity. An illustrative anecdote reinforces the

value of chastity: "There was a woman among those

sentenced to death. When they were being taken to

death, she asked to be given a thread and a needle on

the way. 'What are you going to do with a rope?' the

executioners asked."

2 THEORETICAL FRAMEWORK

The woman said, "There is a stitch near my knee. Let

me sew it up." The guards responded, "After all, you

will die now!" The woman pleaded, "I am a woman;

save my shame. Even if I'm going to die, I have to

appear like a woman in front of the people," (

Haydarov

N. A, 1993

), said the woman.

"A well-bred woman is the honour of the family,

the well-being of her husband, the love of her

children, the precious jewel of people, and the

prosperity of the house. She understands the family

members and works calmly, enduring the bitterness

of the family and living with love and trust. Our

people consider such women well-bred and loyal,

valuing them with respect. Men say that women

should be treated like their biological sisters for a

reason. The concepts of 'family' and 'woman' cannot

be imagined separately from each other. Society's life

cannot be imagined without women, who make a

perfect family. An honourable woman is a force that

brings blessings to society and the family, likened to

angels in the East.

Mothers live in society following our national,

Islamic values, and traditions, raising children and

teaching them the secrets of life—the main bud of a

child's spirituality. A mother's love lasts a lifetime,

continuing even when a child stands on its own feet.

Fakhr-ul-Banot Sibgatullah's daughter says, 'If a

woman is a spendthrift in her administration, she will

offend her husband and suffer hardships. Even when

the husband is a spendthrift, the wife should learn

how to treat him well, plan gifts and other things, and

not leave things behind—the place should be locked'

(

Fakhr-ul-Banot Sibgatulloh kizi, 1993).

In fact, a good, intelligent wife, apart from her

children, also brings up her husband with her

upbringing, honesty, and livelihood. Since a man is

the head of the family and is more likely to be at work,

a healthy spiritual environment in the family is

mainly created by women. This idea is also

mentioned in hadiths: 'Unhappiness is in the wife,

house, and horse' (

Muhammad ibn Ismoil Al-Bukhari.

Al-adab Al-mufrad, 2008).

For this reason, there is a wise saying among the

people: 'A good wife is happiness and gold.' A mother

is incomparable and unique in terms of her love,

beauty, and spiritual strength. As the sages say, in the

matter of generosity, even the sun is powerless in

front of a mother's kindness. The beauty of morning

and spring cannot be compared with the kindness of

a mother. After all, there is no other person in the

world more loyal and kinder than a mother. Respect

and love for a mother are formed by maternal love. A

child owes his life to his mother, and this debt cannot

be broken. Their education has a social content."

3 METHODOLOGY

Mother's love is reflected not only in the image of a

child but also in the development of society. A mature

spiritual mother raises a physically healthy and

spiritually mature person. A mother's love is endless,

selfless, and incomparable. In difficult times, a

mother may forget herself, but she never forgets her

child. The folk saying "Even when the world is

narrow, a mother's love is wide" is great wisdom

related to the deep understanding of the inner world

of women. Comparing a mother to a gardener

symbolizes the meaning of life. Just as a gardener

cares for fruit trees day and night, a mother nurtures

her child. It glorifies human personality and its

qualities, considering it the highest among the

creatures on earth. As written in the hadith, "A sweet

word is charity" (

Muhammad ibn Ismoil Al-Bukhari. Al-

adab Al-mufrad, 2008

Women lacking this quality do not deserve the

honourable name of a mother. Some women cannot

fully grasp the qualities of a great mother. They do

not see the stability of the family, its harmony, and

the upbringing of children as a task assigned by

society, a sacred duty. Such mothers cannot provide a

good education to their children or appreciate family

stability. According to scientists, "The level of

lifestyle in each family is directly related to the degree

to which a couple, especially a woman, has formed

ideas about family life, its essence, and the spiritual

environment within it" (

Karimova V, 2008). We agree

with their opinion.

All children raised in the bosom of conscientious,

believing mothers, brought up listening to their

lullabies, are precious. Every mother approaches her

children the same, regardless of their number: The

duty and value of motherhood have been clearly

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shown by scientists and virtues in their works. A

mother is a true educator, healer, genius, generous,

and prayerful. In the family environment, one child

can be beautiful, another ugly, one capricious,

another gentle and obedient. But for mothers, they are

all one. Only mothers can deeply feel such spiritual

wealth. A mother knows a mother's heart.

This duty consists of a combination of both

natural and social-spiritual factors. The great qualities

of mothers are clearly visible in Eastern women. In

the Eastern family, the mother is distinguished by her

honesty, modesty, chastity, honour, understanding of

livelihood, kindness to her children, and loyalty to her

husband. National and religious traditions and values

are deeply embedded in the spiritual world of Uzbek

women. Uzbek families adore children. As scientists

say, "Each happy bride should know our values,

traditions, the legacy left by our fathers and mothers,

follow the teachings, and teach others what they

know" (

Hidoyatkhujayev T, 2000). There is a saying

among Uzbeks, "Marry a girl after seeing her

mother." If the mother is intelligent and content, this

family can be stable, harmonious, and flourish. But if

the mother is unchaste, shameless, and careless, the

situation in the family will be difficult. According to

Sharia, it is considered a high moral virtue for a

woman not to show her ornaments to other men, not

to flaunt her beauty to others, to have a good

relationship with her husband, to greet him with

respect, and to be considerate, honest, and

imaginative. Thus, mothers must be thoughtful and

imaginative. Sincerity is a divine virtue that protects

people from bad words and deeds. Because

Rasulullah (s.a.w.) said, "Modesty does not come

without goodness (that is, where there is modesty,

there is goodness)" (

Muhammad ibn Ismoil Al-Bukhari.

Al-adab Al-mufrad, 2008)

4 RESULTS

In Sharia, fostering a harmonious relationship with

one's husband's relatives and respecting his decisions

is considered a virtuous deed for a wife. The

cornerstone of building a family is not haphazardly

choosing a spouse but rather seeking an honest,

intelligent, tidy, and virtuous life partner. Hastily

selecting a bride without considering her lineage

contradicts the criteria of both national and Islamic

spirituality.

Islam views the family as sacred, discouraging

divorce whenever possible. Even certain utterances of

divorce may not be recognized in Sharia; for instance,

saying, "Insha'Allah, you are divorced" is not valid.

Divorce is disapproved of by God, and even frivolous

divorces incur divine displeasure. Both men and

women are urged to approach family life with

seriousness and commitment.

In Eastern families, women do not seek

dominance over their husbands. This does not imply

that women should lack opinions or blindly follow

their husbands' whims, but rather decisions should be

made in consultation to ensure family happiness.

While external beauty is acknowledged, a

woman's intelligence, morals, and manners should

take precedence. A woman who aligns her

preferences with her husband's and values inner

qualities is deemed spiritually mature. The Prophet

Hazrat Uthman emphasized the consequences of a

wife hurting her husband verbally, warning of divine

and human curses.

Women play a pivotal role in ensuring family

stability through hard work, patience, frugality, and

providing livelihood. A proverb emphasizes that a

good wife enhances prosperity, while a bad wife can

sour even honey. The Qur'an underscores the rewards

for those who persevere, suggesting that family life

involves both challenges and blessings.

A virtuous and intelligent mother contributes to

creating a familial paradise, nurturing her children

with care. A woman's respect in society and the

family stems from her character and morals rather

than mere appearance. Family life is a mix of joys and

hardships, and it is crucial for a woman to uphold her

maternal responsibilities regardless of circumstances.

Mothers hold the key role in raising daughters to

be virtuous, kind, moral, and skilled housewives.

Uzbek tradition involves teaching girls the intricacies

of life and national customs from a young age. Folk

proverbs highlight a woman as a man's ornament,

emphasizing the importance of a wife's respect for her

husband in maintaining family harmony.

Trust, loyalty, and mutual respect between

spouses are paramount in family life, influencing both

the social fabric and the upbringing of children. The

Family Code of the Republic of Uzbekistan

underscores the responsibility of parents not to harm

their children's physical, mental, and moral well-

being while exercising parental rights.

5 DISCUSSION

The methods of raising children should be free from

contempt, cruelty, rudeness, degrading treatment of

human dignity, abuse, or exploitation of children. In

Uzbek families, parents rely on each other to raise

their children. In Uzbek families, there is a great

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philosophical wisdom that mothers should teach their

daughters from a young age: "compromise with

others." The values that form the basis of family

relations cannot be forgotten. According to scientists,

a child is mainly brought up in a family environment

and is shaped as a person. Education is the most

important pillar of life. It is necessary to educate

every young person in such a way that they can rise

to the highest level by first reading well and then

learning to write. In this regard, national and Islamic

traditions and values should be passed from

generation to generation as a great heritage and

should remain an educational school for children.

Obtaining the consent of the mother is more

important and preferable than seeking the crown of

life for the child. Every delight and pleasure of life is

worth nothing in front of a mother's love and

embrace. Intelligent children recognize these unique

qualities of mothers. "Indeed, it is worth praising

mothers as much as possible because she is the one

who can sacrifice herself for her child, for her nation,

for her religious beliefs, and faith! Words cannot

describe the love, power, and patience of mothers"(

Phazil Kari Yasin ugli, 2000).

It would not be wrong to say that the son's respect

for his mother in the family environment forms the

spiritual core of the relationship that is formed in his

heart towards his future partner. A child who does not

respect his mother will not be able to respect his

spouse. A woman gets spiritual satisfaction when she

feels that her husband has helped her in what she

needs to do. This satisfaction is one of the main

factors of a woman's health and good mood. Helping

women and trying to ease their burden is one of the

ancient traditions of the Uzbek nation. When women

carry a heavy load, men take it from their hands, boys

dig the ground, and girls water the plants, which is a

manifestation of moral and moral culture and a sense

of duty.

During the Mustabid regime, women were

declared to have equal rights with men. But this

equality was a weakness inherent in women, a

complete denial of their place and duty in the family.

In the family, the kindness, honesty, and integrity of

the mother towards the children are the reputation of

her husband, her children, and the entire Uzbek

people. It is also an important moral virtue for women

to pay attention to themselves in the family. To look

good to her husband and be an example to her

children, if a woman adorns herself modestly within

the framework of morals, manners, and attitude, then

this is certainly considered spiritual beauty. If the

mother is happy in the family, this is also a sign of

family joy, happiness, and harmony. As the wise say,

a mother's laughter is the laughter of the whole

household. An example of a mother's love is the

source of spirituality, a great feeling passed from

generation to generation. Mother's love, loyalty, care,

modesty, and consistency are also moral virtues

formed in the process of upbringing in the family.

There is a wise saying in our nation: "Do not seek the

crown of honour; seek the approval of your mother."

According to the hadith, a man came to Rasulullah

(s.a.w.) and said: "Oh, Rasulullah, who has the right

to treat me well?" asked, Mr. Rasulullah said: "Your

mother!" He asked, "Who else?" Mr. Rasulullah said:

"Your mother!" He said, "Who else?" The Messenger

of God (this time) replied: "Your father!" (

Muhammad

ibn Ismoil Al-Bukhari. Al-adab Al-mufrad, 2008)

6 CONCLUSION

The replacement of respect for parents has

consistently been glorified in national, Islamic, and

universal values. Under conditions of independence,

significant attention has been devoted to this issue,

leading to the development of legal foundations for

honouring parents and providing assistance in cases

of exhaustion. This commitment has been expressed

through special laws, particularly within the Family

Codex.

Sages have asserted that a child's respect for

parents constitutes the foundational basis of morality.

This virtue transcends specific families; rather, it is a

duty shared by all families and their children. The

culture of familial relationships dictates that only

individuals who respect their parents can extend that

respect to others. These traditions have been passed

down from our ancestors.

In a noteworthy narrative, two students of Hakim

Termizi decided to embark on a journey with a

scholarly friend to pursue knowledge. However, one

of them had a mother who, in her vulnerability,

implored her son not to leave her alone. The son,

deeply moved by his mother's words, chose to forego

the trip. Hakim Termizi reflects on this, stating, "I

attained this state because of my mother's approval"

(

Omonturdiyev Jabbor, 2000). These words underscore

the profound significance of parental consent in

shaping one's decisions.

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